12 September 2011

Conflict Resolution the Presbyterian Christian Way

Romans 14:1-12

Welcome those who are weak in faith, but not for the purpose of quarreling over opinions. Some believe in eating anything, while the weak eat only vegetables. Those who eat must not despise those who abstain, and those who abstain must not pass judgment on those who eat; for God has welcomed them. Who are you to pass judgment on servants of another? It is before their own lord that they stand or fall. And they will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make them stand. Some judge one day to be better than another, while others judge all days to be alike. Let all be fully convinced in their own minds. Those who observe the day, observe it in honor of the Lord. Also those who eat, eat in honor of the Lord, since they give thanks to God; while those who abstain, abstain in honor of the Lord and give thanks to God. We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves. If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord's. For to this end Christ died and lived again, so that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living. Why do you pass judgment on your brother or sister? Or you, why do you despise your brother or sister? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. For it is written, "As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall give praise to God." So then, each of us will be accountable to God.


Where were you and what were you doing ten years ago today on September 11, 2001? We were all caught by surprise. I was walking across the church parking lot headed to my car when a woman told me in an excited voice, "Have you heard the news? Have you heard the news? They're bombing the world trade center!" With a startled expression I said, "No. I hadn't heard that." And got in my car feeling a bit shaken. Turned on the car radio and for the next 45 minutes as I drove to a presbytery committee meeting I listened to the story unfolding in real time.


You remember how the day unfolded. One of the World Trade Center towers was on fire. An airplane had crashed into it. People were jumping out of windows. Then there was another airplane that flew into the other building. The radio announcers on NPR were at a loss for words. It was all so surreal. The entire nation was gripped by fear and shock. We felt as if we had been snakebitten. We felt the poisoned by hate. The gentle doves had flown away and the hawks ruled the skies above.


Ten years later many questions remain about how the buildings came down and why. Beyond the basic questions of when, where and how is the bigger question which is why? Why did it happen and why did we respond the way we did? The alleged bombers were of Saudi Arabian descent yet the United States government responded by attacking Iraq. One thing we can say for sure is that acts of violence beget acts of violence. The conflict that emerged has been euphemistically called "The War on Terror" as if we could fight a war against a tactic. It is conflict by whatever name you choose. Both 911 and our reading from Romans 14 are about conflict.


We will consider the differences between healthy and unhealthy methods of interaction in the church. There are dangers and there are opportunities for us at this time in our church's life and we will talk about those. In essence, we will talk about the issues addressed in our text today since these are the issues Paul addresses in his letter to the Church in Rome. There were apparently several different Christian groups meeting in Rome. One group thinks its fine to eat meat that has been offered to idols such as the meat regularly sold in their markets. Some say yes and some say no. Regardless of the presenting issue the dynamics of conflict are the same throughout the generations from the early church until today.


Conflict goes all the way to the first story told in the first book of the Bible. You may recall from Genesis the story of how the serpent tempted Adam and Eve to eat of the tree of knowledge and they would become like God. They succumb to the temptation of spiritual pride and that causes God to turn them out of the garden. Spiritual pride is also the sin of the Pharisees that Jesus spoke out so strongly against. The Pharisees were good people. They tithed their money. They knew and taught the scriptures. Where they fell short is that they focused too much on outer manifestations of religion and not enough on the spiritual qualities of love and mercy.


A cursory glimpse at Christian history says we have a disposition toward conflict. Beyond the conflict in the early church we have the sad episode of the Crusades in which Christian mobs raped and pillaged Jewish and Muslim folks in their cities and villages. Then we have the inter-Christian conflicts called the Inquisitions, the last of which concluded less than four generations ago. So conflict has always been a relevant topic and it still is today. A sermon about conflict could be preached in any church in America today and each congregation would feel that the message was pointed directly at them. That is how widespread and common conflict is and always has been.


The question is not whether a congregation will have conflicts or not. The answer to that question is always yes. The question is how a congregation deals with the conflicts they have. Does the congregation have healthy or unhealthy practices when dealing with conflict? Unresolved conflicts can escalate to the point of tearing communities apart. In contrast, mutual forbearance is one of the hallmarks of the Reformed faith. Presbyterians have traditionally dealt with conflict head on and face to face. We show courage by saying what we think out in public. We don't slip anonymous notes under doors to make our point. That is the coward's way. It is not the Presbyterian way. Presbyterians are not cowards. Never have been and never will be.


It was in Minneapolis in 1986 where I first experienced the Presbyterian way of dealing with conflict. I was there as a seminary student representative to the General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church (USA). What amazed me about the gathering of a thousand or so Presbyterians in that convention hall was how the people respectfully but passionately disagreed on topics that ranged from the mundane church matters to apartheid in South Africa. The thousand or so delegates were seated. Standing microphones were dispersed throughout the delegates. When a controversial issue came forward the moderator would allow one person to speak for the issue for 2 minutes maximum and then one person to speak against the issue for 2 minutes maximum. Finally, all the delegates voted and the majority won and they went on the next controversial issue. I saw a lot of passion compressed into a system for expression and resolution that worked. Seeing the Presbyterian way gave me great respect for how we conduct business.


You may have noticed the same debating format when we hosted the presbytery meeting last fall. The controversial issue that day was the ordination of gays and lesbians. Those in favor of the motion lined up on side of the sanctuary. Those opposed on the other side. One by one they came to the microphone and each one gave an impassioned presentation of their view. They each had two minutes to make their presentation. Then time was called on them and they had to sit down. The vote was then taken and the majority ruled and the meeting went on to the next issue. One of the features of the Presbyterian system of public debate is that bullies are not tolerated. Bullies are not tolerated in the Presbyterian system and they will not be tolerated in this church.


Christ expects us in the church to be role models for the community. If the church models unhealthy behaviors such as bullying, let's not act surprised if the recent riots in London and flash mobs in the United States materialize in our city and our neighborhood. Perhaps we should look in the mirror and ask how do we relate to other people in the church? If we can't relate to one another in healthy ways in our local church then what hope do we have for our civilization? The church needs to model healthy relationships and mutual forbearance to the community. Otherwise, we shouldn't be shocked when the flash mobs and riots come home to roost.


During these days when the world seems to be slowing ripping apart at the seams, our faith communities are our best public defense. We've got to get it right in the church or we have very little hope for society. The stakes are very high. Make no mistake about that. The good news is that there is a way forward for the church and our society. When we learn to deal with one another is healthy ways our church will benefit and will our community and the world.


Let's live up to our Presbyterian heritage which includes being open and welcoming and willing to dialogue with people of other faith traditions. In his email last Wednesday, Elliott Gershwin, President and CEO of Interfaith Ministries for Greater Houston, himself a Jew, wrote about celebrating his 40th wedding anniversary. He says,


"The other day when I was talking about my upcoming 40th anniversary someone said 'boy, I bet you've had a really good 25 years together.'  There's a lot of truth to that.

 

So why have we've kept it going all this time?  Here's why.

 

Even though we are very different people, we share the same core values.  And our relationship from the very beginning has been based on those.  We believe in honesty so there are no secrets between us. We believe in family so our hearts swell when things are good and burst when things are sad.  We believe in community, so we give back to others always reminding ourselves of the many blessings that God has bestowed on us. 

 

And because of the bonds of trust, loyalty and honesty, our relationship has turned to love.  It's not the same infatuation we had when we were teenagers, but it still burns today." ("Coming Together to Serve" email from September 6, 2011.)


What keeps us together as Presbyterians is that we share the same core values of mutual respect and forbearance. The biggest value we share is love for God and for one another as children of God. Working out the details of how we live out that love in a Christian community is messy and hard. Thus is our Christian history besotted with both Crusades and Inquisitions. Jesus said how we treat other people is equivalent to how we treat Jesus in his eyes. With that sobering thought in mind, we do well to remember that each of us will be accountable to God not for what our neighbor did or said but for what we do and say. That is a challenging thought for our nation as we consider our response to 911 over the past ten years. On the national and on the personal level, if we hope to receive mercy from God for ourselves, then we will show mercy to others. If we don't care how God will judge us then we are free to bully whomever we wish. And if we are the ones being bullied Jesus invites us to be wise as serpents and gentle as doves. Somewhere in between the serpents and the doves there is a balance to be found. That balance is the key to our survival as a church and as a nation.


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The Rev. Dr. Jonathan L. Burnham preached this sermon on September 11, 2011 at St. John's Presbyterian Church, 5020 West Bellfort Ave, Houston, TX 77035 | Phone 713-723-6262 | sjpresby.blogspot.com

06 September 2011

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Fires raging in Texas

Here is the site that shows all the fires in Texas right now. It was much worse yesterday. http://ticc.tamu.edu/Response/FireActivity/

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The Rev. Dr. Jonathan L. Burnham
St. John's Presbyterian Church
5020 West Bellfort Ave, Houston, TX 77035
Phone 713-723-6262 | sjpresby.blogspot.com

A Debt of Love

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Romans 13:8-14
Owe no one anything, except to love one another; for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. The commandments, "You shall not commit adultery; You shall not murder; You shall not steal; You shall not covet"; and any other commandment, are summed up in this word, "Love your neighbor as yourself." Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore, love is the fulfilling of the law.
Besides this, you know what time it is, how it is now the moment for you to wake from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we became believers; the night is far gone, the day is near. Let us then lay aside the works of darkness and put on the armor of light; let us live honorably as in the day, not in reveling and drunkenness, not in debauchery and licentiousness, not in quarreling and jealousy. Instead, put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.

A Debt of Love


You may be interested to know that the current US National Debt is somewhere around 14 trillion, 671 billion, 854 million, 937 thousand, and 954 dollars. That means you and every American citizen owes a debt $47,008 each. The debt per US taxpayer is even higher at $130 thousand and 960 dollars each. (via http://www.usdebtclock.org/) No wonder whether and how to raise the debt ceiling was the big argument in Washington, DC this summer. In the end the debt ceiling was raised. In contrast to our national debt, we read these startling words in Romans 13:8, "Owe no one anything, except to love one another."
Presbyterians seem to take this admonition to heart when it comes to our church facilities. We don't like to take out loans for church improvements especially for the sanctuary. We don't feel it's right for a business to have a stake in our holy space. We are fortunate to belong to a congregation that is financially debt free. Although we are operating with a deficit budget this year as we have many past years, we have money in the bank to cover the budget deficit. Our congregation is financially debt free yet we have debt of another kind. We owe a debt of love to one another.
You may be interested to know the Bible's viewpoint that love is an action not an emotion. How you feel about another member of the church is not nearly as important as whether you show right action toward them. Without right action toward one another, a congregation will deteriorate into strife and quarreling. The Scripture equates quarreling and jealousy to binge drinking and hookups. That is an embarrassing thought. We thought we were morally superior to the drunkard or sex addict. But we don't get off the hook that easy. We all have been guilty of strife and quarreling. We love our to hold our negative energy feasts at home, at work and at school. The party gets really hot when we can focus on someone who is not there. Group criticism from afar increases the debt of love we owe. In contrast, right action, face to face frankness, pays down our debt of love.
Let's look at this more closely. The Godly kind of love described in the reading this morning is an action not an emotion. You can act right regardless of how you feel. You may smile when you feel sad and it will make you feel better. You may look up and raise your hands and smile and laugh and it will make you feel good. That's the way our body works. Our emotions respond to our actions. The debt of love we owe one another is paid by kind deeds and actions and not by good feelings and emotion. We don't even have to like someone but we must act in loving ways toward them. How we feel about others is not the primary concern of our text today. How we act toward others is the key.
A new pastor in Topeka, Kansas, USA, spent the first four days making personal visits to each of his prospective congregation inviting them to come to his inaugural services.
The following Sunday the church was all but empty. Accordingly, the pastor placed a notice in the local newspapers, stating that, because the church was dead, it was everyone's duty to give it a decent Christian burial. The funeral would be held the following Sunday afternoon.
Morbidly curious, a large crowd turned out for the 'funeral'.
In front of the pulpit they saw a closed coffin which was covered in flowers. After the priest had delivered the eulogy, he opened the coffin and invited his congregation to come forward and pay their final respects to their dead church.
Filled with curiosity as to what would represent the corpse of a 'dead church', all the people eagerly lined up to look in the coffin. Each 'mourner' peeped into the coffin then quickly turned away with a guilty, sheepish look.
In the coffin, tilted at the correct angle, was a large mirror. (Online http://www.guy-sports.com/jokes/funny_religious_stories.htm#Dead_Church_)
Lack of love will kill a church quicker than anything. This church is not dying but this church does have a debt problem. According to our text (Romans 13:1), we owe a debt of love to one another. We owe face to face communicating and dialogue. This is not a tactic we may choose or not. This is a debt we owe and we must pay our debts. Some of us contribute money but we are putting the church into spiritual debt when we use harsh words against others. Having observed the way some of our members treat other members, it is easy to see how we have a serious debt problem in the love department. This is the spiritual level Jesus always notices. He sees below the surface and hears the back room talk loud and clear. The first step toward addressing our love debt in this church is to practice self control. That means control of our tongue. That means watching what we say and how we say it. This church has a lot of work to do in that area. That is the honest truth and that is the challenge of our text today. We can always make excuses such as our age or our medication or "that's just the way she is" but those excuses are unacceptable according to the Bible. If you are serious about your Christian faith, learn to control your tongue. Otherwise, you are piling spiritual debt onto this church that will be left for future generations to pay.

A visitor once attended a Presbyterian Church in Houston. He came because his girl friend was a member of the church and he wanted to impress her family. The main thing the young man noticed was the different way the Presbyterians had of praying the Lord's prayer. In the Methodist Church he had attended as a child in the Lord's prayer they asked God to forgive them their trespasses and those who trespassed against them. When he got home his mother asked him how was the Presbyterian Church? He thought back to the Lord's Prayer and how they said "forgive us our debts" rather than "forgive us our trespasses" and said "Presbyterians don't seem to care a bit about any trespasses but they expect their debts to be forgiven!" We Presbyterians pay our financial obligations. Let's pay our spiritual obligations. Let's pay down the debt of love. The only way to pay it down is with right action. Frankly, let me just come out and say I am not interested in serving a church that systematically gossips, spreads rumors, or undermines people in leadership positions. I am no more interested in pastoring a church that does those things than I am in pastoring a church that owes $85 million dollars on their new sanctuary. Both of those churches are in deep debt. Spiritual debt, the love debt, is just as damaging to the spirit and mission of a church as monetary debt.

You may know the hymn "Amazing Grace, How Sweet the Sound" was written by a slave trader who repented and turned his life over to Christ. The price of human beings have come way down in value in the past 400 years. At the height of the trans-Atlantic slave trade, back in the mid 1800′s, the average cost of a slave in the U.S. was the equivalent of 40 to 50 thousand dollars in today's money. Today, the average cost of a human being is a mere 90 dollars. There are more slaves today than ever before in history—an estimated 27 million. Explosive population growth, impoverished communities rocked by conflict, natural disasters, disease epidemics, unprotected by strong rule of law are all factors that push people into slavery. We have a much larger pool of potentially enslavable people in the world today. In the basic notions of supply and demand that has caused a collapse in the price of a human being." (Kevin Bales online: http://ftsblog.net/2011/03/09/average-cost-to-buy-a-person-today-90/) As you may know, Houston has a flourishing slave trade in this city. Their are captives suffering under bondage in our city and we ignore them to focus on petty questions and nit picking. That is wrong of us to do that. We need to repent of that. Repenting would mean changing our direction from navel gazing and finger pointing. Let's turn our eyes upon Jesus. When we do, we will notice his gaze slowly look beyond us and his head tilt slightly backward as if to say, "Hey, we're okay. Now what about them?" What about them? What about those outside the walls of this church? That is where our focus should be if we want to follow Jesus. Jesus is out in the world with the captive day laborer and the woman of the night who captured from her Latin American village and forced to give her body over to the international sex trade. We may not want to see her or think about her but Jesus does.

Friends, we are in debt today. We owe one another a debt of love. We owe one another face to face clear communication. We do not have to agree on every issue. We never will. We do have to listen to one another and really hear the pain and the joy that people feel. You have permission to speak to me. You may speak to me face to face whenever you have a better idea, issue or misunderstanding. This is an open invitation. Presbyterians are direct people. We have the courage of our convictions. We are not afraid to speak our mind face to face. We conduct our business the full light of day. We support one another when a decision has been made. We help one another when we are in need. We do this because the Bible tells us to do this and we are people of the book. To attend worship every Sunday is one thing. To act with kindness and integrity in our dealings with one another is something else. Jesus was all about taking the right actions. That was more important to him than any cultural or religious rules.

Our love debt toward one another is similar to the US budget deficit. How much do we owe? US National Debt Is our love debt as high as the US National Debt? On the spiritual level do we owe one another 14 trillion, 671 billion, 854 million, 937 thousand, and 954 dollars? I hope it's not that big. But the point is that each love debt that an individual member incurs must eventually be paid back by the entire congregation. Our love debt has grown large over time. We have ignored it for long enough. It is time to deal with our church love deficit. It is time to start paying down our debt of love. The place to be begin is face to face communication with one another. This church will move forward as we begin to pay down our debt of love.


As the Apostle Paul says in our text this morning: "Owe no one anything, except to love one another; for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law." Thank God this church is paying down the debt of love we owe to one another. We pay down our debt of love by face to face communication. If we do not pay down our love debt amongst ourselves then we won't have any love to share in a world filled with 27 million slaves. The stakes are huge here. It's time for this church to start paying down our love debt to one another. It is by far the biggest debt we owe. It's not in the trillions of dollars yet like the US government's debt but until we repent our debt of love is growing by the day. Let's get our love debt under control before it's too late. This is a matter of life and death for St. John's Presbyterian Church.

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The Rev. Dr. Jonathan L. Burnham preached this sermon at St. John's Presbyterian Church in Houston, Texas on September 4, 2011 (23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time) | sjpresby.blogspot.com